Forgiving Childhood Adversity

Research into childhood adversity has proven that early trauma increases the likelihood of adult physical and mental health problems. Since we can’t change the past, we need to find ways of resolving it. Research into forgiving demonstrates that positive health benefits accrue after one’s stance shifts from resentment and victimhood to forgiveness and compassion for both self and perpetrator.

In an article describing the health benefits that follow when adults forgive those responsible for their childhood hardship, Barbara Elliott points out that forgiveness must arise as an emotional transformation and not merely an intellectual decision. If one ‘decides’ to forgive without feeling comfortable with the choice, resentment, anger, and bitterness are likely to persist.

On the other hand, genuine emotional forgiveness opens up possibilities for healing, with documented improvement in many markers of wellbeing.

Forgiveness can be difficult and cannot be forced. But when the time is right, it can free us from the negative physical and emotional consequences of early adversity. 

1. Elliott, Barbara, Forgiveness Therapy: A Clinical Intervention for Chronic Disease, Journal of Religion & Health;Jun2011, Vol. 50 Issue 2, p240.


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